Dr. Helena Dolny

Author, Coach, Consultant, Facilitator

Education Highlights with certification

2021: Resilience Coach

2021: Grief Educator/Counsellor

Current: Ontological Coaching Diploma

2010: Hospice & Rites of Passage guide

2009: Enneagram & Time To Think

2005: MA Executive Coaching (cum laude)

1993: PhD Land Markets & Land Reform

1976: B Sc Hons Agricultural Economics

Books

2001: Banking on Change

2009: Team Coaching: Artists at Work                                            

2017: Before Forever After

I work internationally as a leadership and resilience coach through Grey Matters (GM) Leadership Coaching and Consulting. I founded GM in 2009 and am now one of five women coaches and shareholders. I find it fulfilling to coach people who face the challenge of transition, promotion and/or transformation. I regularly coach C-Suite executives – their need to operate in an environment of systemic complexity is both stimulating and satisfying. Every year, through the International Womens’ Federation  I take on pro-bono mentorship of young women – the field is diverse.

I enjoyed my demanding corporate jobs. I was a young widow, and became Managing Director of the Land Bank of South Africa at a time when my childreleft home for their further studies. This gave me the opportunity to worked an unrestricted number of hours per week. I no longer had a domestic situation that needed my personal involvement. My body kept the score and my health suffered. Itbis not unusual for successful, up and coming employees, whatever their industry, to shortcut not only on sleep but overall self care. Hence my professional coaching focus now often includes how to sustain  personal resilience, whilst delivering excellent work. The mantra that it is marathon, not a sprint is apt. It is also often rough and lonely in those leadership positions. I have survived navigating toxic corporate politics. Clients find my calm, engagement offers them an opportunity to download with safe confidentially and think creatively.

I offer a package of five coaching sessions, “Before You Go” designed to support people in that indeterminate period after diagnosis. I have weathered numerous deaths in my life, both sudden as well as those who died relatively slowly of cancer and old age. When my husband died of multiple myeloma, I only later realised  just how many conversations we had not had. Our focus had been on his keeping alive without any preparation logistically, psychologically, or spiritually for the dying process. I have since trained as a Rites of Passage guide and hospice counselor. I call this my “soul-work”

I published “Before Forever After: when conversations about living meet questions about dying” in 2017. Readers suggested I run workshops. I teamed up with Mapi Mhlangu and birthed LoveLegacyDignity. We run a bi-annual series of workshops, Live By Design – Finish Strong. I offer a Masterclass for workplaces, “Loss, Grief and Resilience.”

Who am I when I’m not working? I am married to radio talk show host, John Perlman whose span of knowledge: history, politics, sport and music make him a wonderful conversationalist. I have two daughters, one Cape Town based, the other in New York. We see them and our five grandchildren as often as possible. I am able to visit Kruger three times as year. Weekends are for cycling off-road, reading books, trying out new recipes cooking and taking care to make time for friendships.